Dear Luv,
Semoga hidup menjagamu dengan baik.
Hari ini seorang gadis menikahi kekasihnya, hampir semua orang akan melihat hari ini sebagai hari yang bahagia. Well, we can say that, in a way.
Note the key word: hampir semua orang. Yeah, what can I say, aku sering termasuk ke dalam sepersekian orang that beg to differ in few other things.
The girl, who married her lover, is pregnant. She is about six month long and had kept it a secret until about a week ago. Hmm...
Tapi kenapa? Takut, malu, tidak ingin menghadapi kenyataan dan/atau alasan lain yang bermain dalam pikirannya. Well, in a society like theirs, all those reasons are valid. She is just a year or two over twenty, just graduated from college and unemployed. Her lover isn't even graduated, at the same age or maybe even younger, he is also unemployed and scared shitless with the situation.
As I learned about them from our short encounter through people around us in these two days of helping her with the wedding, they're simply adorable. Both of the bride and groom are young and naive. They're both scared and really, this wedding thing is probably the bravest thing they've ever done until now. But, taking care of their coming child will top that, obviously.
Why did I say so? Because they have through every steps in her pregnancy together. The boy religiously goes to every appointment with the obsgyn. The girl is taking care of her unborn baby very well. It's like they live in their own exclusive world and so damn afraid that if they tell others their little perfect world will fall apart.
But hey, reality sucks guys. As it is written with an invisible ink in the norm and codes of their society, but everyone must obey nonetheless, they have to enter marriage to have good closure before the society's eyes. Or else, everyone in their society will judge and call their unborn child as a little bastard when the baby is born outside marriage. If you know what I mean.
So they finally told their folks and finally got married this morning. What's with the above keyword? The groom has only one person by his side. No friend, no relative, not even his parents and family attended.
He steps into this marriage thing alone. Granted, with his girl and unborn child, but he is actually alone. If you know what I mean.
No one should put the blame and judgement to them. They love each other, they're both adult, legal age, maybe irresponsible at first, but the future of their life and the coming little one is what matters, nothing else. Even if they decide to not enter marriage, that should none of anyone's concern. They've proven that they love each other and try their ass off to be a dedicated parents for the unborn child. For me, that's enough, as long as they keep doing what's best for the little one that'll see the world in less than few months.
Go to hell for those hypocrite, arrogant and selfish jerks. Just do us a favor, pack your butt and sod off.
Let's open our minds to evolve and produce.
Luv,
-onk-
